Monday, January 19, 2015

Martin Luther King's Day

 Today is Martin Luther King Jr. Day and we did not have the day off. Actually today is my first day of spring semester!! Excited? Yes I am!! Well let's start the day with thoughts about MLK. 

Martin Luther King Jr. is my one of my favorite influential people. His power to be able to stand up for African American and change the world were impressive and admirable. He was a strong "non-violence" activist. His bravery and kindness will be remembered in people's heart forever!! This summer, I was fortunate enough to visit Washington DC and go to the Martin Luther King Memorial. I felt happy to take a picture with Dr. King.  

Not only he accomplished a lot for the society, but also left so many wonderful and inspiring quotes. My favorite is still "Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only ligh can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that."
Lessons I learned from Martin Luther King's work
1. Do not afraid to take the risk that no one else can 
2. Do not afraid to believe the in your rights even other people feels wrong
3. Do not afraid to change the world that you'd like to see
4. Only positive can solve negative, negative can not 
5. Never give up in what you'd like to achieve 

Have a nice and inspirational monday

Monday, January 5, 2015

2015 New Years Resolution....FORGET ABOUT IT

Happy New Year!! Starting a new year means making new year's solutions. Everyone likes to make them, but not a lot people are able to keep them. I used to make a list of things I want to accomplish for the year, but it hard to keep up. I think the new year's resolutions fail because the list is not doable and too long to keep track. I found a way to make the new year's resolution doable and easy to keep track. Instead of a list of resolutions, I will just asking two simple questions when I wake up and before I go to bed each day.

Everyday I Wake Up, I Ask Myself
1) How can I myself happy? (physically and mentally)
       This means I am physically happy by exercise regularly and eat healthy and mentally happy by staying positive, staying connected with friends and family, and helping other people.

2) How can I make today productive? (meeting goals and finishing to-do list)
       This means I have to make sure I get all the tasks done on time, do not procrastinate and fall behind, and follow the plan. I am in a tense graduate program and I should waste any time. 

Everyday Before I Go To Bed I Ask Myself
1) Was today a happy day? If the answer is yes, that is a plus. If I also made someone else happy that is a double plus.

2) Was today a productive day? If the answer is yes, that is plus. If I was a head of the schedule that is a double plus.

Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Looking back 2014......

Before the year started, I already know this year is going to be fast, so in order to make it worth it, I planned to try as many new things as possible, and accomplish as many achievements. Here are 14 things I would consider I tried and/or achieved this year.  
 
1. 100 Happy Days: It was fun doing 100 happy days from May to September this year. Happiness is not given by someone or something, we have to find and create on our own. Appreciate all the little things around us,  and you understand the smallest thing can bring you a lot of happiness.
2. 100 Lessons: It was a great experience doing 100 lessons after 100 happy days. There were a lot of lessons from classes, experiences, and daily life. The lessons will never end. We can continue to learn until we die.
3. Started GirlTalk: I did not know GirlTalk would be such a hit in this blog. Thanks for everyone who have read them. I have a lot more to post for next year, so I can't wait to see the reactions.
  
4. Learned Reconnecting with Friends Means Get Know Them Over Again: Since I missed my friends in Ashland so much, I visited Ashland several times this year. I realized after reconnecting with them, I felt to get know them all over again. During the reconnecting process, we understood each other better and we bonded even more.
5. First Night Out: This summer, I had my first official bar experience. I actually took a shot, danced, and stayed up late. Before that, I go to a bar without drinking and dancing and leave early. It was fantastic to get crazy sometimes.
6. First Wine Testing: Addition to first real bar experience, I went winery for the first time. It was beautiful!! I do not understand wine well, but the wine was delicious.
7. First Professional Picture: I always wanted a professional picture taken by a professional photographer. This dream come true this year. I hope next year I can become the real professional.
 
8. First Apartment: I have lived in a dorm before, but living apartment was completely different. There were more space and actually had a kitchen and living room. I managed to cook for myself and take care my living.
9. Started Graduate School: It was a big step in my time. Making this decision struggled me and there were also struggles during the semester. There were number of times I doubt I made the right decision or not; however, I felt glad that I made the decision. I learned a lot and became more mature. I lookforward for my future classes and wish for success.
 
10. Worked with Real Life Client for School: This experience was completely new to me. I am lucky that the school offer students to work real life clients during our classes, so the classes would substitute for work experience. If I worked with real life clients before I go to real world, I would be in better shape.
11. Memorized a Speech and Overcame the Fear of Public Speaking: I thought memorize the entire speech and speak in front of people without any notes would be impossible, but I made the impossible possible. I learned you never know your potential until you actually reach the point. Thanks for my team for the help.
12. Experienced Real Halloween/Officially Curved a Pumpkin: I do have experience going to Trick-or-Treating and answering the door, but I never really curved a pumpkin nor went to a halloween dance. I was not a big halloween person, so I did not consider doing more halloween stuff. Until I did curve a pumpkin and went to a halloween party, I finally realized the REAL halloween is a lot of fun. This is why American like Halloween that much.
13. First Opera Experience: I liked music since I was young, so I was really looking forward to watch musical in NYC. The opera was amazing!! I plan to watch more operas next year. I'd like to learn more about the story and music.
14. First Snorkeling: After hesitating and being scared for a while, I did it. I was nervous at first, but later I get used to water and started to enjoying it. The little fish was so pretty. Besides, I did not like the water was salty, I wish I can do it again.
 


Sunday, December 21, 2014

Post 100 Lessons

The first semester of graduate school is over now. It was definitely a tough semester. A term in graduate school is MUCH HARD than undergraduate. (I will do a post about it on the other day) From first day of graduate school to last day, I did "100 lessons," which means "one lesson a day." This is what I learned from what I learned.

From May to August, I did "100 Happy Days." It was a great experience. You can read my reflection here. Finding little happiness out of the ordinary life was a nice way to build my optimism. Because 100 happy days was a lot of fun, I decided to do a "100 Lessons" because when I graduate college, the principal told us to "never stop learning and be happy." Since graduate school was starting, so it was a perfect timing to do it . I will learn at least one lesson each day during first semester to make my graduate school life filled with a lot of grain of salt.

I thought 100 lessons will be harder than 100 happy days, but I WAS WRONG. Unfortunately/Fortunately, there are more lessons than happiness in life. Even after 100 lessons, I still learning more and more lessons as time goes by. I'd like to continue share lessons to everyone.

Remember:
Every moment in life is either "a lesson" or "happiness."
There are WAY MORE lessons than happiness in life
Find happiness in the lessons and connect happiness with lessons
The world is filled with knowledge and reasons to be happy
Live everyday like the last day on earth
Because there could be no tomorrow
Life is short, sweet, and experiencing
Be happy everyday and learn as much as you can in this limited time on earth

Monday, November 24, 2014

Life is NOT Fair

I used to think"life is fair," as long we embrace everything we have. However, lately, I have been hearing a lot of terrible news on TV and unfortunate incidents happened among my friends, I started to realize "Life is Not Fair." Then I started reflect on a blog post I read earlier this year called "You're living a dream, but not yours" by Lizzy Early. I like her blog because not onlyshe posts the recipes of yummmy treats, but also she posts a lot of her inspiring life experiences. I begin think about the life differently.

Life is not fair because.....
  • You do not have the loving family like others
  • You do not have the healthy body like others
  • You do not have the great friends like others
  • You do not have the wealth like others
  • You do not have the beautiful appearance like others
  • You do not have the intelligence like others
  • You do not have the nice significant other like others
  • You do not have the althetic skills like the others
At the same time........
  • You might not have the loving family like others, but you could have the healthy body that others do not have
  • You might not have the healthy body like others, but you could have the great friends that others do not have
  • You might not have the great friends like others, but you could have the wealth that others do not have
  • You might not have the wealth like others, but you could have the beautiful appearance that others do not have
  • You might not have the beautiful appearance like others, but you could have the intelligence that others do not have
  • You might not have the intelligence like others, but you could have the nice significant other that others do not have
  • You might not have the nice significant other like others, but you could have the althetic skills that others do not have
  • You might not have the althetic skills like the others, but you could have the loving family that others do not have
Life is not fair because you are not live in your own dream, but you are living in someone else's dream

You could be complain about your love life, family, wealth, appearance, and ability etc.; however, there are people wish had your other parts of you.

Sunday, November 2, 2014

Girl Talk 5 - Dealing with Rejections

I am very sorry about no blog for a month and half. Graduate School is INSANE!! Well, busyness would take my time away with this lovely blog:)

Let's talk about Rejections, Shall we? This probably the HARDEST topic on the "GirlTalk" ever. Rejection is not only from a guy; it can be you applied for a school/job, and you did not get in, you auditioned for a play, and you did not land a role, you want to join a sport team, but you were disqualified. I have deal with a lot of these, and I am not the who handled well. However, I'd like to share how I (suppose) to overcome.

Confession: I have been rejected three times in my life. First time was junior year in high school, another one was senior in college, and last one was last year in Ashland. (Recently, I was rejected by two guys) Those were painful experience. I cry sometime, not for the guy, for myself. I never thought "How come he does not like me?" I think "I am not good enough!!"

The first one was being friends zoned. The guy asked me how to ask a guy asked me to how to ask another girl to the school dance. I should have told me my feeling that it really hurt me.

The second one was not being brave enough to confess, and later, he found another girl. I should have told me my feeling earlier.

The third was misunderstanding, I though he liked me; however, he only wanted to be friends. Friend zoned....I should NOT have confess or I should have been strong about it.

Recent two rejections? Sorry I am not ready to share them, yet.

The sad and disappoint feelings would stay with me for a long time. However I would feel in the end that it is better to get rejected in the first place then end up with a relationship, job, program, or anything that does not fit me. 

I might face more rejections from guys and I will face many kinds of rejection in the future. It is UNAVOIDABLE. I learned that: "Be BOLD with Confession, and Be STRONG with the Result."

I admit that I was not bold when tried to confession and I was not strong enough to handle the result, but I am slowly become stronger with rejection.

I am sure the girls who are reading this are able to be BOLD and STRONG.

Thursday, September 11, 2014

9.11/Ground Zero Memories

As you all know that today is 9.11.14. This day will always remain in our lives. The day the twin tower was destroyed and thousands of lives were gone. What a tragic moment in the US and rest of the world. I can not believe it has 13 years since then. It seems like it was just yester day.

13 years ago, I was a middle school student in Japan. I just started to learn English and barely knew anything about the US. Also I did not know about Twin Tower. One day I heard the news, I was shocked!! But, I was too young to truly understand anything. Then I came to the US, and see people honor 9.11 each year and I expressed my thoughts along with other people. However, I did not become truly affiliated with 9.11until I traveled to New York last summer.
I wish I could see the Twin Tower before the incident. Unfortunately, this will never happen.

Look all the names!! I felt deeply sorry for them. Even though I do not know any of them, I almost cried when I read their names. Before I visited Groundzero, I only knew about 3000 people had lost their lives, but after I look through the names, I can't help thinking "they all have loved one at home waiting for them, and how did their families will react after hearing their father/mother/daughter/son will never come home again so suddenly?"

3000 names =3000 stories.... Each story would have more tears than just 3000 number of dead ones. 
 
Saddest part of the event is that we cannot do anything to change the history. I really hope this day was never happened. Only thing we can do is to pray and hope this kind incidence will NEVER EVER happen again.
 
I understand that we are all busy with study and work, but please take a moment to pray and remember those people. I was super tired with all the homework; however, I still took time to write this entry. Thanks for everyone who read it!!
 
Bring the world a peace!!