Monday, February 16, 2015

Girl Talk- How to Be a Good Girl to a Guy?

I hope you all had wonderful Valentine's Day, last weekend. If you are a date, please enjoy it. If you do not, STILL ENJOY IT. My Valentine's Day was spending time with friends and family, doing homework, and writing this blog post.

*Sorry for not being updated with this blog and girl talks. Since Valentine is over, it is the perfect day to for this GirlTalk Topic. "How to Be a Good Girl to a Guy?" "What does a guy look for in a girl?" Here are the fact my friends and I experienced and my guy friend told me.  

1. Be Independent: Do not rely and dependent on the guy. You could be somebody's girlfriend or wife, but you are still independent woman/girl. Also there was a time when my guy friend told me that he likes that part I am being independent.

2. Be Friendly: This is a MUST. No guy would like the girl is not kind. Also, guys like nice girls as much as we like nice guys. Be friendly to your friends and family!!

3. Be Neat: Not 100% of the guys out there want a neat girl, but being neat definitely helps. Being neat immediately make you stand out in the crowd of girls.

4. Be Unique: No one should be able to replace you in his heart if you are unique. There should a part of you that will attract him that is only you.

5. Be Smart: Study hard, pay attention to crowd, and act professionally. There are many different ways to show your smartness. Like we do not want a dumb guy, they do not want to dumb girl.

6. Be Polite: If you want a great guy, you should the right girl first.

7. Be Optimistic: I understand that sometimes we want a man's shoulder to cry when we are down, but he is not going to always be there for us. Sometime he has hard time in his life, so use our optimism to make him feel better.

8. Build Your Talent and Passion: This ties back to number 4. Your talent and passion would make him keep falling for you. I recommend for the girls who long time relationship to try and explore many different hobbies and maintain the relationship fresh.

9. Have a Beautiful Appearance: Unfortunately, guy care about your looks. It is also the first thing that will attract the guy. if the guy you like is attracted to you physically, you have a high chance of scoring him. "Beautiful appearance" is not only having the pretty face. Step 1 through 8 makes you beautiful.

10. Make the Guy Happy: I understand that we all demand a guy to make us happy when we want to get in a relationship. I am sure all the strong girls out there can not only make themselves happy, but also make the guy happy.  

All in all, guys pretty much want the same thing for their other half, be the girl that you ask your ideal guy to be.

Saturday, February 7, 2015

100th POST!!

This post is my 100th Post!! I have been bloging since spring of 2011. I can't believe it has been four years!! At that time I was finishing college, I was feeling lost and confused, so I wanted have a blog to keep my life updated, keep in touch with friends, and have a place to be myself and reflect.

I used this blog to write my lessons, memories, thoughts, goals, and inspirations etc. My intention is to make myself motivated and enjoy life and if by sharing with others can brighten their lives, it would be awesome. There were ups and downs as for the past three years. However, no matter how hard my life was, this blog always made me feel better. My relationship with this blog is wonderful.

After 100 posts, I still A LOT of share (I have 26 draft posts that I need to finish writing.

I hope you all will continuing reading them and like them.

Thanks Blog for giving me an opportunity to be myself and get to know myself.

Thanks for everyone has been reading at least one of my post.

I am looking forward to write more posts.
 
Here is to another 100 posts!!

Monday, January 19, 2015

Martin Luther King's Day

 Today is Martin Luther King Jr. Day and we did not have the day off. Actually today is my first day of spring semester!! Excited? Yes I am!! Well let's start the day with thoughts about MLK. 

Martin Luther King Jr. is my one of my favorite influential people. His power to be able to stand up for African American and change the world were impressive and admirable. He was a strong "non-violence" activist. His bravery and kindness will be remembered in people's heart forever!! This summer, I was fortunate enough to visit Washington DC and go to the Martin Luther King Memorial. I felt happy to take a picture with Dr. King.  

Not only he accomplished a lot for the society, but also left so many wonderful and inspiring quotes. My favorite is still "Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only ligh can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that."
Lessons I learned from Martin Luther King's work
1. Do not afraid to take the risk that no one else can 
2. Do not afraid to believe the in your rights even other people feels wrong
3. Do not afraid to change the world that you'd like to see
4. Only positive can solve negative, negative can not 
5. Never give up in what you'd like to achieve 

Have a nice and inspirational monday

Monday, January 5, 2015

2015 New Years Resolution....FORGET ABOUT IT

Happy New Year!! Starting a new year means making new year's solutions. Everyone likes to make them, but not a lot people are able to keep them. I used to make a list of things I want to accomplish for the year, but it hard to keep up. I think the new year's resolutions fail because the list is not doable and too long to keep track. I found a way to make the new year's resolution doable and easy to keep track. Instead of a list of resolutions, I will just asking two simple questions when I wake up and before I go to bed each day.

Everyday I Wake Up, I Ask Myself
1) How can I myself happy? (physically and mentally)
       This means I am physically happy by exercise regularly and eat healthy and mentally happy by staying positive, staying connected with friends and family, and helping other people.

2) How can I make today productive? (meeting goals and finishing to-do list)
       This means I have to make sure I get all the tasks done on time, do not procrastinate and fall behind, and follow the plan. I am in a tense graduate program and I should waste any time. 

Everyday Before I Go To Bed I Ask Myself
1) Was today a happy day? If the answer is yes, that is a plus. If I also made someone else happy that is a double plus.

2) Was today a productive day? If the answer is yes, that is plus. If I was a head of the schedule that is a double plus.

Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Looking back 2014......

Before the year started, I already know this year is going to be fast, so in order to make it worth it, I planned to try as many new things as possible, and accomplish as many achievements. Here are 14 things I would consider I tried and/or achieved this year.  
 
1. 100 Happy Days: It was fun doing 100 happy days from May to September this year. Happiness is not given by someone or something, we have to find and create on our own. Appreciate all the little things around us,  and you understand the smallest thing can bring you a lot of happiness.
2. 100 Lessons: It was a great experience doing 100 lessons after 100 happy days. There were a lot of lessons from classes, experiences, and daily life. The lessons will never end. We can continue to learn until we die.
3. Started GirlTalk: I did not know GirlTalk would be such a hit in this blog. Thanks for everyone who have read them. I have a lot more to post for next year, so I can't wait to see the reactions.
  
4. Learned Reconnecting with Friends Means Get Know Them Over Again: Since I missed my friends in Ashland so much, I visited Ashland several times this year. I realized after reconnecting with them, I felt to get know them all over again. During the reconnecting process, we understood each other better and we bonded even more.
5. First Night Out: This summer, I had my first official bar experience. I actually took a shot, danced, and stayed up late. Before that, I go to a bar without drinking and dancing and leave early. It was fantastic to get crazy sometimes.
6. First Wine Testing: Addition to first real bar experience, I went winery for the first time. It was beautiful!! I do not understand wine well, but the wine was delicious.
7. First Professional Picture: I always wanted a professional picture taken by a professional photographer. This dream come true this year. I hope next year I can become the real professional.
 
8. First Apartment: I have lived in a dorm before, but living apartment was completely different. There were more space and actually had a kitchen and living room. I managed to cook for myself and take care my living.
9. Started Graduate School: It was a big step in my time. Making this decision struggled me and there were also struggles during the semester. There were number of times I doubt I made the right decision or not; however, I felt glad that I made the decision. I learned a lot and became more mature. I lookforward for my future classes and wish for success.
 
10. Worked with Real Life Client for School: This experience was completely new to me. I am lucky that the school offer students to work real life clients during our classes, so the classes would substitute for work experience. If I worked with real life clients before I go to real world, I would be in better shape.
11. Memorized a Speech and Overcame the Fear of Public Speaking: I thought memorize the entire speech and speak in front of people without any notes would be impossible, but I made the impossible possible. I learned you never know your potential until you actually reach the point. Thanks for my team for the help.
12. Experienced Real Halloween/Officially Curved a Pumpkin: I do have experience going to Trick-or-Treating and answering the door, but I never really curved a pumpkin nor went to a halloween dance. I was not a big halloween person, so I did not consider doing more halloween stuff. Until I did curve a pumpkin and went to a halloween party, I finally realized the REAL halloween is a lot of fun. This is why American like Halloween that much.
13. First Opera Experience: I liked music since I was young, so I was really looking forward to watch musical in NYC. The opera was amazing!! I plan to watch more operas next year. I'd like to learn more about the story and music.
14. First Snorkeling: After hesitating and being scared for a while, I did it. I was nervous at first, but later I get used to water and started to enjoying it. The little fish was so pretty. Besides, I did not like the water was salty, I wish I can do it again.
 


Sunday, December 21, 2014

Post 100 Lessons

The first semester of graduate school is over now. It was definitely a tough semester. A term in graduate school is MUCH HARD than undergraduate. (I will do a post about it on the other day) From first day of graduate school to last day, I did "100 lessons," which means "one lesson a day." This is what I learned from what I learned.

From May to August, I did "100 Happy Days." It was a great experience. You can read my reflection here. Finding little happiness out of the ordinary life was a nice way to build my optimism. Because 100 happy days was a lot of fun, I decided to do a "100 Lessons" because when I graduate college, the principal told us to "never stop learning and be happy." Since graduate school was starting, so it was a perfect timing to do it . I will learn at least one lesson each day during first semester to make my graduate school life filled with a lot of grain of salt.

I thought 100 lessons will be harder than 100 happy days, but I WAS WRONG. Unfortunately/Fortunately, there are more lessons than happiness in life. Even after 100 lessons, I still learning more and more lessons as time goes by. I'd like to continue share lessons to everyone.

Remember:
Every moment in life is either "a lesson" or "happiness."
There are WAY MORE lessons than happiness in life
Find happiness in the lessons and connect happiness with lessons
The world is filled with knowledge and reasons to be happy
Live everyday like the last day on earth
Because there could be no tomorrow
Life is short, sweet, and experiencing
Be happy everyday and learn as much as you can in this limited time on earth

Monday, November 24, 2014

Life is NOT Fair

I used to think"life is fair," as long we embrace everything we have. However, lately, I have been hearing a lot of terrible news on TV and unfortunate incidents happened among my friends, I started to realize "Life is Not Fair." Then I started reflect on a blog post I read earlier this year called "You're living a dream, but not yours" by Lizzy Early. I like her blog because not onlyshe posts the recipes of yummmy treats, but also she posts a lot of her inspiring life experiences. I begin think about the life differently.

Life is not fair because.....
  • You do not have the loving family like others
  • You do not have the healthy body like others
  • You do not have the great friends like others
  • You do not have the wealth like others
  • You do not have the beautiful appearance like others
  • You do not have the intelligence like others
  • You do not have the nice significant other like others
  • You do not have the althetic skills like the others
At the same time........
  • You might not have the loving family like others, but you could have the healthy body that others do not have
  • You might not have the healthy body like others, but you could have the great friends that others do not have
  • You might not have the great friends like others, but you could have the wealth that others do not have
  • You might not have the wealth like others, but you could have the beautiful appearance that others do not have
  • You might not have the beautiful appearance like others, but you could have the intelligence that others do not have
  • You might not have the intelligence like others, but you could have the nice significant other that others do not have
  • You might not have the nice significant other like others, but you could have the althetic skills that others do not have
  • You might not have the althetic skills like the others, but you could have the loving family that others do not have
Life is not fair because you are not live in your own dream, but you are living in someone else's dream

You could be complain about your love life, family, wealth, appearance, and ability etc.; however, there are people wish had your other parts of you.